Monday, 2 May 2016

Shame the Shaming!

'Can I just say, that we don't have a Body Shaming problem in this society. And some of us, shouldn't have to take this workshop, because some of us, are just victims in this situation.'

'That's probably true. How many of you have ever felt personally victimised by Body Shamers?'

*Everybody raises hands*

Body shaming is the latest trend. It's so 'in' that we shame ourselves as well as everyone else around us . You can bet your bottom dollar, you have been a subject of it, and most likely have taken part too. We have been brainwashed to the extent that we can not just accept each other, or ourselves for that matter, the way we are. We're either 'too fat', 'too skinny' Or, 'Damn, she needs to eat a burger' or 'She needs to lay off the burgers!' We are swamped by negative body issues.

How many times have you heard the phrase, 'I'm on a diet' since, lets say... January? Bearing in mind its only May? I bet you've lost count. I know I have.

We slam ourselves for not being what the media presents as 'acceptable', but then what is classed as acceptable? We've had 'love your curves', 'men like women with curves' - 'curves are so much sexier', 'curvy women are real women'. Bull shit. Absolute bull shit! Never have I ever heard such crap! Women as individuals are sexy. Who cares is she's size 6, size 8, size 10,12,14,16,20, 20+?! As long as she is happy! As long as she is healthy! As long as she knows she's beautiful! Why can't slim women love their figures too? Why should they be shamed?!

This 'trend' swings both ways ladies and gentlemen. It shouldn't be about what you weigh! There are so many important attributes when it comes to women! Long gone are the days when we could objectified. We have our own minds, our own ambitions, our own values. Who is anyone else to tell us otherwise?
If I wanna go to Macdonalds and eat three cheese burgers, fries, mozzarella sticks, a BBQ chicken wrap and a Dairy Milk Mcflurry. Im gunna bloody well do it. And I'm going to enjoy it. And you can go stick your snotty little opinion up your perfect little arse.

Yes. I do try to eat healthy, and I try to exercise. But I do not let it rule my life. And why should I?
For the sake of worrying that someone might tell me I'm 'overweight' or that my thighs don't have the 'thigh gap' they should do? Girls who's thighs touch are just as fabulous as girls who's thighs don't touch.

I saw a quote comparing the beauty of a flower to fairy lights. Two completely different things. Both considered beautiful. There is not one type of beauty or one type of perfection. It doesn't work like that. 

There is no such thing as a singular 'perfect' body type!

It doesn't exist.

Women should empower one another - not tear each other down.

And I'm afraid to say that, the majority of the time, it will be women who will shame others. We do not work as a team. We see each other as competition. We will tear down those who do not fit 'our standards' or those who 'exceed our standards' and we feel threatened by. Women need to unite, and build together. Eliminate the body shaming amongst us. Do not compare yourself to anyone else.

The moment women start lifting one another up, the sooner men will value us the way we deserve! If women don't respect each other, then what reason do men have for doing so? We need to begin to love the female race, there is nothing more beautiful than united women, all standing together, defending their rights and putting a stop to the insults. 
Don't call her a slag, a slut, a whore, a bitch! By putting an end to the degrading names, we are one step closer to equality. We're moving away from shaming already! 

The human body is an art form! The body is a temple, and we are the gods that they belong to. Each body to their own. Each human individual owns one body, and only one. 

So next time you go to pass a comment about someone's image. Think twice. Only us as individuals. As Women. Can stamp out the shaming. Love the way you are. And lets others love themselves.

Be ashamed to shame!

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